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~*ideas remix*~ 1. existential kink get off on your cringiest most humiliating failures 2. jazz improv musicians belief of "no wrong notes" with a good resolution 3. visa's embrace mistakes chapter in Introspect 4. Improv practice of no apologizing because it breaks 4th wall
1. Existential Kink: "I was basically obsessed with how hot and vulnerable it would be if I totally screwed something up." https://t.co/1nMAx1kSpL
2. Jazz improv https://t.co/QzS0PHV1H8
@visakanv Herbie Hancock describing a similar realization he had early on playing with Miles Davis, and "right in the middle of Miles Davis' solo, I played the wrong chord. Sounded like a big mistake! ...and Miles paused for a second... then he played some notes that made my chord right." https://t.co/NsDiTfdH5g
3. @visakanv 's embracing mistakes chapter in introspect: make mistakes on purpose, analyze and become BFFs with your past mistakes & failure modes https://t.co/3uPsyfdOIt
@visakanv 4. Improv: Once you apologize you break out of character & the audience concludes that you made a mistake. You can actually apologize *as* the character instead https://t.co/AbSYXvtCGe https://t.co/XUP7F9dm5o
@christineist A potent mix! I like it, I think it works great for "lighter" settings, and I also think it'd need at least one other ingredient in order to work in a wider range of settings Something like, to not lose the depth / gravity of whatever happened?
@christineist Someone who went with just these could go in a direction that unhooks from paralyzing cringe (amazing! deeply needed!), but might also detach from... relational resonance? Could end up kind of skipping over the surface of the scene
@christineist I'm not quite sure what that ingredient would be! "NVC Mourning" is in the ballpark: https://t.co/Sg8JGlYH8d
@SarahAMcManus Great point, vivek also made this point re: serious mistakes. I agree, the step of "embrace" is often very difficult and more drawn out before you can move onto putting into a different context. I'm also reminded of the 5 apology languages https://t.co/W8IS1swRsk
@christineist 5. malcolm's "transcending regrets" (riffs on the jazz metaphor but goes deeper maybe) https://t.co/MyrnAMrfDb
@Malcolm_Ocean thanks for the link!! I had listened to Keith Jarrett before but am enjoying a re-listen with your backstory. Really enjoyed these excepts on how you re-framed tension away from regret & blame https://t.co/WqmkouLmk2
@christineist ya that's a great tracklist for the remix! here's my own remix, combo of music & visa & trauma healing. for me the keyword is "flinch" https://t.co/KrygybFDNK