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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 3 years ago

you can’t moralize away a load-bearing coping mechanism

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 3 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

rather, you wanna identify what the load is, and redistribute it elsewhere once the cope is made redundant and unnecessary, it becomes much easier to remove, no moralizing required

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 3 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

moralizing in fact often introduces more load (guilt, shame, anger) which can reinforce the cope

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 3 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

this is why Allan Carr’s easyway to quit smoking (system that’s worked for loads of people) insists that you continue smoking while reading the book. This eliminates the moralizing, which reduces load, which makes it easier to dismantle the cope

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 3 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

moralizing is itself a cope https://t.co/uREH2Q4LGC

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 4 years ago

Taleb said there are 3 addictions- heroin, carbohydrates and monthly paychecks I’d like to propose a 4th: moral superiority

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 3 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

so then you step back and look around and, my god, the whole species is in the thrall of a massive multiplayer strange loop of load-bearing coping mechanisms

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Forth ❤️‍🔥@forthrighter• over 3 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

@visakanv why shouldn't we all be coping all the time, the universe is super wide, weird, barely understandable, constantly changing, and ultimately going to kill us. Haven't we all had those days, "You're just lucky I got out of bed today" 😉

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 3 years ago

Replying to @forthrighter

@forthrighter it’s fundamentally human to cope yea

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 3 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

updating my books one line at a time https://t.co/7HO6Stja6C https://t.co/4oYp2PQHqA

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 2 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

https://t.co/VMZcPaOjGn

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michelle ✍️💞📕🎢💫🥑@michelleakin• almost 2 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

@visakanv hah i enjoy the twin brains https://t.co/WVQQpOy46M

michelle ✍️💞📕🎢💫🥑@michelleakin• about 2 years ago

@pragueyerrr Wat I do: Identify what needs are being met by them, and look at how ELSE those needs could be met Put zero pressure on self to STOP addictive behaviors Begin ADDING behaviors that take care of unmet needs Slowly, addictive behaviors lose their sparkle

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