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this reminds me of why i was so excited as a kid to go to a new high school for a couple days, no one there knew me. i could be whomever i wanted i could be the social one, and not feel absurdly weird about it https://t.co/BfVXioLAAP
one of the things i hated growing up in the same place was as soon as i tried to do anything out of character (dance, socialise, etc.), i would receive so much . . . ostensibly encouraging attention, but it would feel overwhelming “waaah, he’s dancing!”, stuff like that
this really is the perfect way to put it https://t.co/7czSNgoFTn
highly sensitive kids will hide their expression to avoid being overwhelmed and then wonder, “why am i not expressing anything?” https://t.co/YErERIOsyr https://t.co/RF75pGOWbX
> insensitive here doesn’t mean mean cruel, or tactless, or uncaring it might be the opposite: very loving, present, attentive and like . . . it can be really hard to tell what’s going on, even with other adults, even as adults
without the benefit of being me, idk how i would have known to deal with me and it’s a good warning that i might not know how to deal with my child i can’t know what to be responsive to, because my child hasn’t been born yet https://t.co/YpGK6Nwd87
That’s the thing @jessicamalonso for me to understand. *The thing they need* is the responsive adult. Beyond that, any specific structural fix, is not known. But given they are not born yet, the thing they will need is the responsive adult.