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already circled around this a couple of times but it's getting clearer each time: the question "how do I figure out what I want" is a kind of trap, a kind of misframe. what you want is within you all along and it does not require your conscious attention or your permission
in conversations with many people, i've found that people blurt out what they want without meaning to, or even realizing it. they ask for help without "knowing" that they need it. people gravitate towards things they like, physically. they linger longer outside the guitar shop
for some people there's a great deal of anaesthetisation and numbing etc – because wanting things in the past led to pain, disappointment, etc – so –https://t.co/wbSm8YBe0p https://t.co/b8f84QEdE2
i'm reflecting on how layered it is 1. there's some desire in ur heart 2. follow it, get burned. pain 3. create a barrier around the desire, lock it up 4. now feel cold, desolate 5. feel bad abt cold 6. beat self up for feeling bad 7. detach 8. ugh why am i so bored & listless
a large % of problems persist because they are misframed, we get fixated on the wrong questions. we should really encourage more experimentation with more questions. here's a great question i enjoyed recently: https://t.co/CvTyEZU58H
circling back – it can be really cool, interesting, useful to develop an articulation of what you think you want. but there will always be a bit of a gap between what you want and what you think you want. a lot of misery unfolds from people's fixation on what they think they want
at this point I'd wanna carve up the audience bc there's like a bell curve re: how different people deal with this. for some people, their heart/mind, brain/body connection is so wonderfully interwoven, none of this causes any significant issues
I see this with bodywork all the time dynamic range is reduced by patterns of tension and circulation leading to numbness: when you begin to work with areas and circulation in reestabalished, tension is relaxed, there’s resensitization and often more discomfort before there’s less discomfort
@TheJointleman cheers! idk if I actually know, ha, but i'm basically following my own natural rhythm and maybe that syncs with other people's. or maybe it's something that's worth repeating daily (if framed in fresh ways each time)