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I am confused why people who hurt me act this way. “Why?” Confused in a way where I think the reason would be entirely obvious if I was just an impartial observer. https://t.co/vCrtfPfxK3
Maybe it’s that it’s hard to understand someone’s action as reasonable when you’re so intimately aware of the pain it causes. Maybe that’s also why we deliberately choose to remain ignorant. It would be too hard otherwise.
The last thing the part of you that wants to win wants is to negotiate. To give up the idea that yours is only the really reasonable side. It’s tough to not negotiate when you’ve seen the reasonable of their side. https://t.co/ygI6O5ijHR
William T. Powers tell us this makes sense that this is what negotiation this, the only true alternative to inner conflict it’s when both parties accept the possibility that it may be their side for whom it is reasonable to change their desires https://t.co/mdL4z4BBBi
When you’ve seen the reasonableness of the other man’s reason to fight, you ask yourself: “What’s the rights of me to decide the other guy’s gotta die?” “Who’s to say they shouldn’t win?” https://t.co/YrQGBi19tl
“you mean it’s my job to protect things that are near to me just because they are” “yes. and it’s also your job to protect what is far” “that’s confusing” “yes... and no” “wat” “it is confusing. but you don’t have to relate to it in a confusing way”