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it’s when two different controllers are trying to control the same thing to two different places and instead of continuing to raise the stakes higher and higher instead of escalation and stakes you wonder if there is a better way to live
for those of you who wonder why non-coercion seems to matter to people, this is why it’s not wanting to live like this. 24/7 https://t.co/ZxZYAZhoo0
> not being sure if I should I think this is really indicative of something. What’s going on when I’m lying down in the bed is two very, very fucking strong shoulds grinding against each other: 1. I should go get the waterbottle, this is the sensible thing to do. https://t.co/g78m8sy6gw
non-coercion is not tugging on the rubber-band tighter and tighter but finding a way to exit the game https://t.co/XxXpRQwOa8
insight courtesy of @Malcolm_Ocean on several levels - his use of the word “deescalate”, in what is my favourite 2x2 ever - his mentioning the book above enough times to get me to read it https://t.co/LoAgjmgmQD
past attempt at this thread, still one of the threads i think most about https://t.co/2IZNl4PnNk
non-coercion isn’t about productivity, or this, or that it’s about a felt shift of feeling. about experiencing a certain lightness for people who may be completely unfamiliar with it https://t.co/omZpMmhYLB
point of this thread is maybe to show that non-coercion has stakes for the people most into it something about recognising the stakes accurately helps let go of the negative framing https://t.co/z5WMP5cJCj
i think about this picture a lot https://t.co/ajeT60zJhf
“non-coercion is about deescalation” put down the gun https://t.co/ZPOnFALZPw
if you’re at a point where going about your daily life is the equivalent of having someone screaming in your face, things have gotten pretty dire. it’s salvageable but it will take time. you need to rehabilitate your relationship with yourself. You start by putting the gun down https://t.co/bMVE2CufU8
