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“i hate being in this house” keeping it suppressed tales a lot of energy. but saying it can take a lot of energy too, because in saying it, you created another error signal “because i said i hate being in this house, i must be doing something about it, and im not” -> ⚡️😣
“by saying it, i am implying i should be doing something about it” this is the problem. it makes saying something a political/social act. “i hate this house” “i hate this house” it keeps generating an error every time you say it
to instead just say, “i hate being in this house right now” because it is true that is different. there is acceptance in that voice https://t.co/VXe8Gztfro
it’s hard to say what’s different, except maybe the agency model it’s harder to tell lies from this place. hapless https://t.co/b0NIo0Flsy
in that spirit, i hate being in this house https://t.co/r7iwTMrMgl
there’s an image of being a kid and voicing a problem and the adult saying, “so what am i supposed to do about it??? i can’t!” a kind of prethinking the kid needs to do about if the adult can do something about the problem
it reminds me of something else ive been learning, which is that maybe. just maybe my job isn’t necessarily say things that are perfectly suited other people, but just to say things because they are true for me? https://t.co/dde1gCmEXy
it’s insane. i get to tell XXX that i am mad, just because i am??? without having like a rational plan or reason to think something good is going to come out of saying it??? https://t.co/js6OPtjpx0
making it other people’s responsibility to deal with my feelings, or not knowing what to do about them *or better phrased, just not making it mine to make sure they can deal with every feeling i have, or they know what to do with