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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

Explaining ourselves can keep us from playing the “sincerely vibe and want/trust them to get it” game. https://t.co/If8eiGeriV

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

Explaining ourselves begins to create problems. Because then we stop assuming people will take us the right way. and then we stop vibing in the sincere way that might let people take us the right way. https://t.co/2uVONtUpGn

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

Wanting them to get it always seems to have a component of trusting them to get it too. Because it’s a sort of not “here is a pre-packaged legible container of defences, you cannot dare legibly accuse me of something wrong here.” https://t.co/Xvro8FJo6R

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

We get too focused on making our explanations airtight, and legibly defensible, and then it becomes more about saving us, and neuroses, and not so much anymore about them, and connection, and earnestly speaking with them.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

It’s a “here is an illegible set of vibes, I cannot but trust you to get them right or take them right.” https://t.co/vgiATNYCeO

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

One of the most powerful pieces of advice I ever received: Allow judgment.

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