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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

When people imagine happiness, they imagine a sugar-coated version of it. If they truly imagined it, it would by definiton feel completing. https://t.co/5sbzjmJkBl

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

I think this is also what’s going on when people react negatively to CBT, gratitude practices, or any sort of seeming “coercive” or “fake happy” practices they don’t trust. https://t.co/GXzlyQZCwc

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Elena Lake 🌿@relic_radiation• about 4 years ago

@nickcammarata 100% and I believe: advice to increase happiness by “noting the positive” or “practice gratitude,” or, hell, all of CBT emerges from, and perpetuates, this sugarcoat-y misunderstanding

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

They’re not wrong in a way. If they imagined happiness, that 𝘪𝘴 what they would feel. It really isn’t worth that much.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

And there’s something else possible around not lying to yourself and pretending it is happiness while loving wherever you are at. We are exhausted of lying and constructing emotions, even though we do it all the time. (This is why we are exhausted all the time.) https://t.co/Rk59AJjE5H

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Elena Lake 🌿@relic_radiation• about 4 years ago

@nickcammarata my favorite approach that acknowledges *real transformation* is Dynamic Emotional Integration, I.e. Karla McLaren’s “how to love the fuck out of whatever emotional state you’re in, without pretending it’s happiness”

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