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Maybe because they accurately perceive that the solution will stop working, or won’t solve the actual problem. https://t.co/ZYBZwizq8W
Maybe because they accurately perceive the solution will get tainted. Maybe it already has been for them. https://t.co/mA2jWp1rtG
Maybe because the problem their mind is implicitly expecting the solution to solve is something like “feel ok” and they accurately perceive the solution won’t fix that. https://t.co/nkZ37n0bbi
They need to perceive the problem as just a practical problem, and expect the solution to do less. https://t.co/6tgVgM1kuP
They may be alienated completely from trying to “solve” anything by themselves. In which they are acutely feeling a lack of sovereignty, and a sense of over-constriction by their super-ego telling them to “GET BETTER. GET BETTER” and they just don’t wanna 😣
*For the problem in their head/heart* (the one about not feeling sovereign enough), they are accurately perceiving the “solution” to their “problem” won’t fix it. https://t.co/Wi6CXD9Pyc
Another reply of mine calling out alienation, and perceiving problems as merely practical problems in other, but with themselves, encountering alienation. https://t.co/XAaXC8OUj6
Alienation rules the world around me. https://t.co/nfDwiS04jJ
Upgrading this answer to top-level. https://t.co/dGLPeRax89
The idea of *making desires real for people,* leaving them psychologically changed, having the desire move through their system and the system synchronise around itself and materially change These are real problems. https://t.co/Bk25UFMPgp
In some sense, if you already succeeded at this—making them want to execute the change—then they would be doing this. The fact that you haven’t—the fact that you haven’t streamlined, aligned their subconscious enough—is fact of you have more of it left to do.
You don’t get change for free. Even if it isn’t a real problem to you, it still is a real one. https://t.co/M4bN4adxga
You will be blocked if you don’t respect this as a real problem. Your progress bars will feel stuck. https://t.co/DZhuNBfapw
This is also one of the most sensible, straightforward answers to me. > of course it would be easier if you had a friend on the outside guiding you, with a map in hand. Even if it’s the same map you have on the ground https://t.co/jvxPR7TRk7
Having a second person is just valuable. For so many reasons. - you can let go, let them do the work of tracking the pins etc, and just focus on feeling the felt sense e.g. all my work on self-Motivational Interviewing, etc.
just space for us to express uncertainty and vulnerability and unsurety, since someone else is now taking care of the thing previously, we felt the need to “hang on to it,” and this prevented us from touching our actual felt sense lest we let go
- there is a sense of conviction and collective sense-making, they are “holding on” to your conviction for you https://t.co/Au4qsnDhJs
- there is a sense of encouragement and felt safety of love e.g. when babies are learning to walk, moms can just . . . encourage the baby, and that helps whenever the baby becomes unsure, demotivated, she can just feel loved again (cf The Inner Game of Tennis)
because not feeling loved makes us doubt, makes us question why do this, makes it feel unsafe to do more such actions https://t.co/VYbziKjMps
feeling loved is like a Friendship Pillow to do more of the project https://t.co/RoerOBKYtT
also, it’s like a maybe the advice isn’t necessarily bad it’s your relationship to taking the advice that is broken https://t.co/UFrRdz3KFh
it’s almost like you recognise that taking your advice (for you) would mean taking a tortured version of the thing, where “you have to”, instead of for real (drama) https://t.co/x19lLkNxxy
because applying any advice without thinking about it is hard. especially your own gotta actually have containers to apply it. conversations with other people—when they give you the advice—do that, but who does that for advice with yourself https://t.co/sDGqOLLi75
but sometimes it's more a matter of simply not taking the time to apply your own wisdom to your own situation. your friend came to you asking for help, maybe, but you're too stuck in the weeds the solution: make an appointment with your own wisdom
this is why im such a big fan of journalling on twitter. it’s me giving advice to myself. it’s using my wisdom in the fullest way possible https://t.co/GMtjcMjUXi