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Adolescent = giving a massage to someone is you “giving” and them “receiving.” Adult = their enjoyment of your massage is your gift. Who’s giving, who’s receiving? Unclear. Your enjoyment is my gift. Each interaction is complete in the moment. https://t.co/1d5R4dbIDx
@TheOrangeAlt @natural_hazard @Malcolm_Ocean @QiaochuYuan Adolescent = individual-oriented, thinks in terms of transactions and credit makes decisions based on how their status will be in group Adult = kin-oriented, think in terms of group and aesthetics makes decisions based on what they want to have happen in the group
I used to think in terms of the transaction/credit way, and it cost me. When I was receiving, I felt I was accumulating debt. I couldn’t enjoy it. It took me understanding my enjoyment was a gift to them to truly and simply enjoy. This was my gift.
We’re always orienting towards Wholeness this way. To be whole is to neither have credit (to be used, unfair), nor debt. It is to have things be complete in the moment, yet affect the future. This is the Wholeness possible when we allow giving/receiving to be fractal.
“when you manipulate, you only get what you paid for even if it otherwise may have been freely gifted to you” https://t.co/u7noO9F7VH