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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

FUCK I JUST REDISCOVERED IFS. https://t.co/wOFj2QOeHc

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

brb, reinventing Self energy

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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I don’t mean the technique, or the parts work. I MEAN THE ACTUAL SOURCE, the very felt sense from which he himself crafted the technique.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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The central confusion of ourselves is that parts respond to other parts, so when you realise “Oh, Part 1 is freaked out about X.” “I don’t need to be freaked out about X.” Another part goes “SHIIIIIIT, we gotta stop being freaked out by X. This . . . does not help.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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For example: men, reading a thread about women, and how having the concept of women can be harmful “SHIIIIT, we gotta delete that concept” https://t.co/FCHVxf1xQk

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

wrong response: [reads thread] [freaks out!!!!] [tries to delete the concept of women from his head] literally this is still the thing where you’re trying to do something so you can be more acceptable to women in general

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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Unfortunately, deleting the concept of women usually means “suppressing it.” This . . . does not help.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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It helps in the short-term, in that you can hide it from others. It does not get you very far otherwise. It certainly doesn’t help you untangle the mess of your mind. https://t.co/cfsutDfENN

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

We start as a Mind. [Step 0] We then begin to have concepts [Step 1, 2]. This is called form. We notice the ways those concepts don’t align with reality [Step 3,4]. We begin kinking even more so they better align. All the while, our mind is getting more and more twisty. https://t.co/bMf7je3ouM

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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Everytime you engage with your concepts, ten more appear. The Hydra of Concepts https://t.co/oEuavI1qtC

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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What helps is something that cuts through. A way to move through your concepts without generating more. “Conceptually invisible.”

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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This is what being simple-minded means. The Uncarved Block in Daoism. The simple-mindness of Winnie-the-Pooh. The playful dumbness of the Hot Girl. They are all stubbornly defying the “concept -> concept” rule.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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The way this applies to IFS, or emotions, or social interactions is drama. Drama is having concepts about what is ok or not ok. “If I do X, it is NOT OK, people will ABANDON me, FUCK.” “So if I act this way instead, then they might LOVE me.”

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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As you engage with your own drama (“fuck fuck fuck, I can’t act like blah”), you are touching some of your deepest fears. Necessarily, it will generate and trigger other drama. Hence, when you’re doing emotional work, you can end up in circles, or tangles.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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Kindness cuts through drama. Kindness says “IT’S OKAY.” You say, “But what if . . .” Kindness says, “IT’S OKAY.” You say, “But what if . . .” [seven hours later] Kindness: “Yeah!, still ok.” https://t.co/cEdkVwZt7R

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

Kindness says, “sshhhh, it’s ok, ilu.” You say, “BUT WHAT IF I DO OR THINK THIS?” Kindness says, “no, really, still, i still love u ok.” You’re suspicious. You think kindness loves you because you’re good.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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Instead of your ”””consciousness””” trying to slay the Hydra of Drama and generating even more, you let the Hydra of Drama munch munch munch on kindness till it realises it can’t. https://t.co/KGEunCUT56

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

“At first, the elephant lunges in every direction, trying to escape. When it realizes it can’t, it lies down and goes to sleep.” The elephant is our mind. https://t.co/ZEQreK9nUv

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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Kindness is that Self energy, because it is idempotent and identity. You can’t do anything to it. Kindness is curious, compassionate, courageous, clarifying, calm, confident, creative, connected. The 8 Cs of Self energy. https://t.co/0u7u9cz6Sh

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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If you lost kindness, that means a part took over. Go inspect that. I *think* this is what I mean by “Anything but kindness is confused.”

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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Anything but having Self energy is inherently being confused about yourself because a part has taken over, and it is driven by some drama (defined earlier) or concept about the world. https://t.co/r8fhFLx9W4

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

A feeling that‘s been rummaging around in my head lately: ”Anything except kindness is confused.” https://t.co/hDbtU6L8Hd

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• about 4 years ago

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Anyhow, I think Dr. Richard Schwartz rediscovered by concept of kindness and called it IFS, he just did it before I rediscovered him.

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