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here’s a fun example Susan Sontag for the first minute, Camille Paglia from 1:24 absolutely gorgeous Kanye-levels of self-congratulating, that are delicious to watch, because they’re absurdly confident without stakes https://t.co/VRz8wk3M6k
i’ll never get over my bio,* because it’s *fun*, and it recognises the subtext in a way that says, “i recognise you,” and that feels nice [* give it two weeks] https://t.co/8g54EEqF7W
when you are absurdly confident and fun in a way that recognises the subtext and communicates you do, people can ease and relax into the play of absurdity https://t.co/CZD4w6s7PK
@mechanicalmonk1 @ChanaMessinger @artfulminimal @sarelbic It’s ok to need caretaking. But making it opt-in, recognising subtext, and gracefully navigating yeses and nos are a huge skill upgrade that expand your ability to out negative emotions and still get really positive interactions out of it I’d call it a cheat code for life
it’s only painful when i don’t feel safe with you, when you don’t communicate “hey, i get you, and your experience of this right now,” then i feel a draw on my psychic energy, you need me to feel a certain way to be ok https://t.co/LJoNiAgfC0
@liminal_warmth As smn who was that guy once, my life changed when someone explained to me, in kind and patient terms, that when I got overly attached, the problem was they as the other person weren’t free to feel whatever they wanted to anymore They had to feel a certain way for me to be ok
endeavour with every absurdly confident move to communicate “hey, i get you, and your experience of this right now” and also—“i don’t know what the heck you are feeling; i am here to find to this out” responsiveness is sexy