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> But what even is normie? I don’t know. I don’t know . . . All I know is . . . the people that are weird? That didn’t fit in some way, and *have no aspirations to* The people who don’t seem to care if I’m weird, who’d tolerate weird 24/7 without finding anything off
The whole concepts of “natural self” and “too weird for them” and “average person” are well worth deconstructing. It’s not as simple as I have “too much weird,” because I can be very weird, and still be well-received, when I co-vibe with normies right.
It easy to feel gaslit, isn’t it, to grow up weird in a normie world? Not that one is different—that is fine, visible—but this more unspoken, invisible thing, where everyone seems to walk around, somehow fine with all this, as if I am crazy
I’m being very careful to deconstruct any right/wrong here, any sense of trying to build an outcast nerd self-superiority, because *I don’t think that’s right,* not the right way to view it anyway https://t.co/Xhpbf8GPLR
The funniest is lands of contradictions like America, where everyone tries to be individualist, and different from the curve, and it’s different shades of lipstick, or even hippies, who develop their own uniform https://t.co/HNPdXSlLs5
And in our [hippies’] defense, it’s an important part of figuring oneself out https://t.co/tZr8gBzjo4
And hopefully, after that, the style is set enough, one can engage without alienation as one wants to, and *still choose to* hang around other hippies if they want to https://t.co/y8RKFM0n6S
Another note—the two women I’ve met so far I can truly say I’d be comfortable marrying and proud to support every day of my life—they’re both people I met here, and they both deeply know what it’s like to have been lonely and deeply interior as a kid [and flourish now]
This whole thread was inspired by an @egregirls reply I received a long time ago—last October—when I tongue-in-cheek asked “How did learn to hate the normie?” I remember being struck by the intensity of this reply, and it made something real to me. https://t.co/AUhlEZIyZx
“there’s something real and fucked up here with normieland” https://t.co/kBVcwDDAuz
@CatsterQed you remind that no, there are some real costs to normietude people get bullied people get called out for being weird there’s the sneers of being better than the fringe/weirdo kids (just read some of the other, completely genuine replies here) that’s not cool
“it’s ok to hate it” given that I “know I shouldn’t hate it” https://t.co/WzMxlOzFVe
“With the looseness to not hate normies ALSO COMES the looseness ot hate normies without thinking u r a bad person for it” you ever read what you wrote 6 mo and think wow 6 mo ago really figured this out i just gotte reread their things? https://t.co/7b3dXkR4o6
Even as I’m so eager to unask the question of what is a normie, if I have achieved anything in this thread, it is to firmly plant my flag in weirdodom, and accept it is a place I have been, and in that, it will always be a part of me.
Some visa threads to close out this one “never forget” https://t.co/9KQcTcaHj3
I’m in a great place now. And I made a pact with my teenage self: that one day I would get out, and I would never forget how we suffered, and that I would tell our story, and that I would help the others. I think teenage Visa would be really happy for me, and proud, and grateful
“security-via-obscurity” from an imposed scrutiny, at a time when you cannot give an answer, cannot define yourself, because *it is too early to* https://t.co/MOEpggQcZv
Bc I hang out with teenage Visa in my head all the time (we made a pact at ~17), I’m great with young people and never feel intimidated or confused by their “weirdness”. It makes *perfect* sense to me always. Teenage illegibility is security-via-obscurity against adult scrutiny
In every child is the seed of a sovereign individual 🌱 https://t.co/a53JgUqIio
In every child is the seed of a sovereign individual, with their own hopes and dreams and desires and identities. If you really appreciate this, you can have wonderful relationships with them, even learn a lot from them. If you don’t, you’re both gonna have a bad time https://t.co/fGPcxV9hZu
