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Seeing some tweets on the TL about ADHD and Iām feeling a thread coming up... I have written several in the past but Iām not sure if any directly talk about how (my?) ADHD is slippery and resists negative reinforcement. You canāt frighten/intimidate ADHD away. I tried. For years
Funnily this is the intersection of the two next books I intend to write: Unlearning Coercion, and Constructive ADHD Caveat: all of the following is my personal experience ADHD is very, very, very stubborn. You canāt ācontainā it because it will outlast your executive function
This is something people donāt seem to get so I think itās worth repeating: the game is rigged. No amount of clever strategizing can really help you outwit an opponent who is stronger, faster, and just better than you on every dimension. I struggled & failed until I accepted this
Exactly https://t.co/CVilVPgadW
Iām not going to be able to get into all of the nuances of how to navigate this relationship well in a twitter thread when i havenāt slept all night but Iāma just line up a couple of riffs: https://t.co/jgP93jbXIL
to have ADHD, in my view, is to be blessed & cursed to be the custodian of a wild trickster spirit who refuses to be tamed, broken, refuses to obey anybody else's directions ā including your own. You can't win, IMO, so you might as well accept your fate and go along for the ride https://t.co/GMDvYCcWfL
Actually if you click through the above thread youāll get a bunch of useful details. This is part of how I manage my ADHD in a constructive way: I collaborate with past and future selves https://t.co/2GCuplR4KG
there is a lot of work that a person with ADHD can do to make life less miserable. But what Iām trying to convey here is that you canāt install an authoritarian government and expect to control a messy, chaotic, irreverent, independent people. You have to respect their autonomy
I have a good enough relationship with myself that I can joke about it. But there is a truth here. Not all people respond to repression the same way. Some will literally choose death. There is staggering variance here that many people donāt seem to appreciate https://t.co/4ge6MH1Aid
If I am a charming and persuasive person, maybe half of it is that I had to charm and persuade others to survive socially, but another half of it is that I have to charm and persuade myself to get me to do *anything*. Itās a tremendous amount of work. It did pay off eventually
I am really like this even today, and it has gotten in the way of my life ā so much so that Iāve basically designed my entire life around this I can recognise that itās unhelpful/costly and try to admonish etc but ADHD brain does not give a fuck about negative reinforcement https://t.co/yz69igqBUy
guy: iāll pay you $100 to bring me a glass of water me: whoa! nice!! i'm on it me: *opens 100 tabs* what is water? how do clouds even? history of naval warfare? roman aqueducts? how desalination works? guy: hey nvm I got it me: ok me: *opens 100 more tabs* why ice floats? https://t.co/91dUiTFDur
I do nrecognise that thereās a flavor of defeatism in some peopleās tweets about their ADHD, and I donāt encourage that. But I understand it. Sometimes itās a coping mechanism, sometimes it can be something much worse. Which is why I really like the frame āconstructive ADHDā
Hereās a post with some of my existing notes on the topic, including a video. I will eventually expand this into a book https://t.co/utRtidyfHc
The text of this thread is available in the above post, but ima repost it here too if you donāt wanna bounce from the twitter app. Iām considerate like that š https://t.co/44EBOkNcYT
someone once said something like "I like how visa says he's going to do something, then immediately does it". it's actually an ADHD coping mechanism. if you ask my friends from my teenage days, they'll tell you I was unreliable, full of shit and you couldn't trust anything I said
@visakanv https://t.co/ZxFMGmsL4U
Your subconscious drives are reorganizing your mind to try new strategies til one works, and since they aren't conscious, they aren't constrained by: ā¢ what you think is okay ā¢ your ownā¦ beliefā¦ that you're not allowed to fuck around and find out?!? š¤Æ