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ALL OF YOU ARE WONDERFUL 💕💕💕💕🚒 AND there are better and worse ways of communicating https://t.co/93VRHTdUxF
i used to be like “omg i am not flirting i am just sUpEr fRiEnDlY and people misunderstand me!!!” no. i am just flirting. 100% of the time. i’m never being serious, i am always flirting, with everyone, all the time 25/8 it’s your fault you’re sexy and wonderful, that’s on YOU
With women, there’s times it feels easy, when there’s a pattern saying it will be welcome, when there’s no tightness, just easy sincerity. There’s times when it feels difficult. I don’t know if it’s welcome, does it sound wrong.
My provisional answer: That sense of wariness is VALUABLE. A sign to check again, for what I already know. Specifically, check what tightness is there. Know my audience. Nothing is necessary to post or say. When it doesn’t feel necessary, it’s more likely to be done right.
I’ve been noticing more and more . . . the thing to fear, especially when playing with more flexible codes, non-codes, is desperation. Nothing will wreck a cooperative house or vibe more than this. https://t.co/WoCatpYtVc
@liminal_warmth It feels strange you should have to say this, but then there’s other obvious stuff I’ve found useful. I suppose the biggest danger is desperation. When we feel tight—desperate—is when there is most cause for fear. That’s when “obvious” things can get most ignored.
Another question: What IS the intent you’re coming from? I WANT it to be selfish. I don’t MIND if it is. But I want it to be honest. Nice guys often mask and it feels odd and uncomfortable. https://t.co/eNy1FRw2qG
I THINK (provisionally) it really does come down to trusting myself. A non-naïve trust. Trust that is not just wished for, but built. https://t.co/00AIHvmZf8
*Even if my system is already trustworthy in principle, it matters to to build trust the right way.* https://t.co/lvHweJ5zlt