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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

I think a lot more relationships would be clearer if they eschewed the talk of morality in conflicts and instead just focused on what is—their feelings and the degree to which they do care about the intertwingling of those together. https://t.co/8TL4gJc51B

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 5 years ago

“That’s rude” is short-hand for “I didn’t like what you did, and I am invoking the moral authority of social norms to side with me here.”

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

Morality is a Schelling point for conflict resolutions till it becomes a court of moral law that completely doesn’t matter or change the fact of what’s felt, and the fact that this hopefully matters to both people in the relationship. That’s all. That’s all there ever was.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

Sometimes feelings are best treated as empty, and morality as real, but too often, feelings are funged, and morality is considered real, and it hurts and obscures.

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