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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Dating is improv, a performance engaged in together. Proposing and blocking. Playing your objective and attuning. It’s terrible fun, and learning to pluck each other’s strings better. We’re all instruments waiting to be used.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

This matters because if you don’t know what’s going on, it might seem like it’s about authenticity, or performing, or impressing, or revealing, and it’s easy to get all serious and confused.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

There is nothing to be confused about. It’s a solemn and playful activity. https://t.co/fgx5yWayQJ

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 5 years ago

The mistake of many adults is confusing serious with solemn.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

A good dance means just that. Nothing more. Nothing less. It doesn’t mean you’re perfect for each other. It doesn’t put you in love. It does mean you had a good dance together, and you might want to come back for more. https://t.co/lOUxIvIkCV

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

The problem comes when guys begin to feel their sense of love entitles them to something, like it means something. Can she trust you as a person to be there when she needs? Can she trust you to be /there/ with her, instead of with some symbol of her? No? Then what’s wrong?

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

In the process, you won’t be able to help but give of yourselves. https://t.co/yrI3Ipgcs2

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

It’s impossible to not give of yourself in any given moment together.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

Dating is co-creating relational art with each other, and maybe in the process finding love.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

Surprise yourself! Enjoy! Never take a date that would not be fun for you. https://t.co/Y1sLNioEcU

Tyler Alterman@TylerAlterman• over 4 years ago

1/ At their best, fighting, sex, dance, music, comedy, acting, rap, meditation, sports, conversation, poetry, and visual art are improvisational. They surprise the practitioner themselves during practice.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

There’s this concept I’m developing of always being whole. Yes, you want something out of the date, but if you don’t get it, you’ll still be whole. This is part of the general theory of seduction. https://t.co/PwuCiK4fX4

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Rephrased, the general theory of seduction (courtesy of @Malcolm_Ocean) is saying: “I recognise you might not like me right now.” AND “I think you're going to.” It’s being with them where they are and challenging them to explore this hypothesis.

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