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Corollary: Take words the way people mean. When someone says, “I think we should X,” when you they have a mistaken model of your mind, and you were already on board X, then just say “ok!” message of doing X received, instead of clarifying blah blah Y I was already on board.a
Another example. Cropping out the inappropriate joke at the end. https://t.co/aqW9ayclxK
In improv, there’s this idea that partial blocking is still blocking. If someone says something, and you try to clarify or but in any way, you are still not receiving the place that it came from. They didn’t want you to “but.” They wanted you to get something.
Take that something and then do what you want. Receiving doesn’t mean going along with what they say. But it does mean fully picking up what they put down first. Pssst . . . this is basically what @visakanv does in the replies. https://t.co/O7r3XvmxSY
There is an art to replying and commenting, and probably like 60-70% of people I’ve seen on the internet fail at it. The important thing is not to speak your mind, but to “support” the OP. You can support them by disagreeing well & you can “mis-support” them by agreeing stupidly
People themselves might not know what they want. Your duty is to listen to both what they’re saying, and a bit beyond. You’re an active participant in this figuring out what any of us really want or mean or need, yo. https://t.co/Iaya0deMn6
