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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

It’s possible to say ”I’m into you. I already know it.” AND ”I see you’re not into me, and I’m willing to /vibe with you from there/.”

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

On one side is nice guys who desperately want to fuck and are trying to signal with body language, “I don’t wanna fuck I don’t wanna fuck and that’s ok.”

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

On the other hand, there’s steely PUAs who aren’t afraid to say they want to fuck but can’t respect enough that the other person doesn’t want to fuck yet.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

. . . then there is dancing with someone from the place they are, and also in a way that might awaken something else. This is the solemn, playful art of seduction.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

Nice guys are with others’ experience at the expense of their own. PUAs are with their experience at the expense of the others’s. And when you find someone who can be with both? Keep them.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

Rephrased, the general theory of seduction (courtesy of @Malcolm_Ocean) is saying: “I recognise you might not like me right now.” AND “I think you're going to.” It’s being with them where they are and challenging them to explore this hypothesis.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

There’s something both safe about them recognising where you are and intriguing—challenging—that this man walks up to you and claims to know something you’ll like. Safety + fear = 😍

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

Seduction is awakening people to the idea a certain desire may be within them while being with them wherever they currently are.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

Recognising where the person is matters, makes fear feel safe, because so many interactions go wrong and painful when the person is being with their symbol of you instead of you. https://t.co/MwsSLHcivi

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

To put someone on a pedestal is inhumane in the same way objectification is. The person is lost, the symbol has entered, and whatever happens isn’t with them.

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