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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Don’t ever make a plan. Just choose what the right next thing to do is and do it. And sometimes that thing is making a plan or checking your calendar. But we’re always already only ever picking the right next thing.

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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This defeats the constant productivity nerd LARP of making plans, the impulse to sketch our how you’ll solve your problems before doing it, and it sucks. No plan meets your internal body criteria for both feeling like you’ll end up doing it and feeling enough. Fuck it.

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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This freed me. I’m always already only ever picking the right next thing. So why don’t I just pick what the right next thing to do rn is? It’s literally impossible to do anything else. Sometimes that right next thing is to plan.

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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But it doesn’t have to stop me if the plan doesn’t feel good enough. https://t.co/B82yb4zuph

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• almost 5 years ago

@jondubin @GeniesLoki @SeanMombo it doesn’t have to stop me anymore from getting the things i want i’ll just sorta be bad at it https://t.co/XEg8NIoXMR

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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> the impulse to sketch our how you’ll solve your problems before doing it This hit me hard, because there’s the sense . . . if my plan doesn’t feel good enough . . I don’t wanna go through it 😖

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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It reminds me so much of the lost dating boi . . . “if she doesn’t like it / it it doesn’t work, I don’t wanna do it.” https://t.co/VCYaHu2fEm

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

There's the kind of boy who feels nervous about preparing gifts because it can feel like he lost. That he has to give gifts means he lost. That he’s not receiving enough back means he lost. It’s not incoherent.

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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But as I’ve grown up, I realise now what commitment means in vibe. In marriage. In any endeavour. It’s a non-naïve sort of commitment.

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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It’s Paul Graham saying he wants the founders who seem so dedicated to their start-up they’ll make it work, even if anyone else would have talked away.

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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It’s the married woman saying even if times feels rough and she’s not getting enough from the marriage to last, she will stay committed, up and until the day it changed to otherwise.

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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It’s the guy in me dating who realised he could stay committed to his intentions, hold the sincerity of his actions and his desire, even if “the plan” as original conceived didn’t work. https://t.co/jpAYEnqIbe

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

It almost doesn’t matter if the gift isn’t well received, because it was about vibe first and foremost, and that can still be there. How can gifts not be well received coming from place of sincerity? https://t.co/kYKIzXJq6w

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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There’s a certain solidity to these people. They feel solid, because their sense of action is robust to micro-disturbances till the day it flips. (A 🤯: This what meditation trains.) https://t.co/19SutpytbZ

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

When we sit, meditate, and BANG, there’s a loud noise. What’s going on there? Why do I not feel as jerked as I would otherwise?

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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I don’t believe in marriages being unconditional. Or commitment to a life-ruining start-up. But there’s a non-naïve commitment nevertheless, it’s a robustness of action that can only come when . . . https://t.co/UDEk1aJKPD

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Love should always be unconditional. Relationships should never be unconditional. This is the way.

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

. . . I’ve internalised something shared across all these ideas - meta-vibe - post-regret - infinite games - improv - smoothness of experience

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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The best I can do is continue pointing at the meta-vibe and bringing it to dating, my research, moment-to-moment life till I smile and laugh and the weird energy things start happening again.

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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cc: @Malcom_Ocean, 2/5 of these fingers are yours

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