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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

I've done a lot of soul-searching and personal growth the last two years and decided to write down some of the lessons I've learned which make life more 𝑒𝓃𝒿𝑜𝓎𝒶𝒷𝓁𝑒 🧵 https://t.co/Fuq7nDCrOk

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 4 years ago

mutuals if you’re on the fence about doing @threadapalooza and would like a prompt to nudge you, hit me

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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there’s always at least two takes you can have on anything: the interested one and the cynical one. always go with the interested one.

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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the best way to learn is not by spending so much time mapping out a new field, but to just learn learn learn as much as you can. any random tid bit helps. the pieces will fall into place and the connections will be made later

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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there’s always something to be found interesting. you just have to find the right perspective to take https://t.co/cVT5u2JQOH

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

there’s always at least two takes you can have on anything: the interested one and the cynical one. always go with the interested one.

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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enjoying the process > desiring the end

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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when finding things to like (eg new music) always go in with the perspective that you're open to enjoying the """worst""" of these things enjoyable (eg Taylor swift or some other popular artist)

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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the fastest way to happiness is nailing down the small stuff. work in order of easiest to hardest and do so very slowly so the habits stick eg drinking water->wake up same time->meditate->gym

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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avoid putting your future-self in a position where they have to rely on willpower

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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work on building willpower anyways. fitness is the best way I know how

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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mindfulness mediation is as close to a cure for anxiety as I think we can get for now

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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know-thyself is best done with a therapist or journaling

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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find out what you think other people think of you. that's a great way to see what you truly think of yourself

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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you are not your job title. get a hobby. it’s what you’re probably working to be able to do anyways

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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live where the weathers nice (or at least doesn’t suck). it affects your mood way more than you think

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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keep a list of things you moderately enjoy. when you’re bored and don’t know what to do, read the list and see if you want to do any of them. if not, pick a random one and commit to it for just 1 minute. you'll be surprised at how effective this is

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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always have a project to pour creative energy into and watch grow

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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be particular with your friends. if you believe that this person is some you truly care about, commit. make a point of at least calling them every few weeks.

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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you should probably be writing down more, not fewer things

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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figure out a good system for keeping track of the things you write down. this will pay dividends over the long haul

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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choose when to speak deliberately but when you do, commit. speak clearly and with confidence

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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listen to other people. everyone, and I mean everyone, has something to teach you. it’s just a matter of you finding the value in what they say or do

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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set daily reminders to focus on the breath. it's important to slow down for a moment to cut through the chaos of the day

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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“real” is a poorly defined concept. so is “true” and “exists”. “useful” is the more... useful concept.

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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listening to few songs a lot > listening to many songs a few times

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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automate your finances and you won’t have to think about retirement or debt as long as you hold a decent job

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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define your own values. but remember, you’re not the first person to live. life is a game and people have written manuals. learn from them https://t.co/a5WJtvhJjt

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 5 years ago

Life is a video game. 📘 The Missing Manual 📘

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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remind yourself when things are actually out of your control, and let go. when they are in your control, work like hell

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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think about famous people you like. figure out why. write down that trait you like about them. eventually you’ll start to see commonalities which will help you figure out what it is you look for in potential friends/coworkers/mentors/romantic partners

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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most of your beliefs are probably wrong. most of your beliefs are connected in a network. most of your beliefs can be updated at the drop of new information which can come from anywhere or anyone. expect to change your mind and embrace it

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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show don’t tell. don’t talk explicitly about how you’re X, Y, or Z. eventually people will pick up on it. you'll also look way better as a result

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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thinking in another language helps you keep it sharp and helps you find crucial words/grammatical structures you can improve on

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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you’re an individual first. but you’re not just an individual. you need community

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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the best mental habit to get in is to notice what you’re thinking. it’s okay to think, but it’s important to not pollute the airways. garbage in garbage out. https://t.co/lolg3f8e3X

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

mindfulness mediation is as close to a cure for anxiety as I think we can get for now

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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you probably don’t need the new tech. phones/laptops are the new cars. buy them used and use them til their last breath

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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you don’t know something until you write about it or do it

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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find out how you can test your beliefs. even something abstract like philosophy or math can be tested against ones ability to recreate an argument faithfully

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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tone matters. get in the habit of hearing what you sound like from someone else’s perspective. also be aware of other peoples tone. they could be stressing you out subconsciously

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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quick feedback loops + failure are the best ways to learn

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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when no ones around, dance like no ones around because no ones around and you can dance

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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entertainment isn't a waste of time (just not at the expense of other things). it scratches a very primal itch in us and that's a good thing

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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Almost no one cares about you. A few people care a lot about you. Always remember both.

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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if there are a lot of people who enjoy something, there’s usually a headspace you can get into where you too can enjoy that thing

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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Always focus on what it is you want to do. If you're clear about a) what can do, and you b) think through the consequences of each, you'll find yourself motivated to do the things that you know are best for you long term

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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We're ignoring so much wisdom wrt how to flourish as individuals and societies. It took me way too long to realize that religious stories, myths, fiction, symbols, etc were all just different packaging for better and worse phenomenological experiences https://t.co/TyHe7jUASj

christian@cxgonzalez• almost 5 years ago

"The guiding idea [of my work is to find] the commonality of themes in world myths, pointing to a constant requirement in the human psyche for a centering in terms of deep principles." -Joseph Campbell

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christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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You're not as unique as you think you are, and that's amazing. There are more people out there who are similar to you than you realize. Go find them.

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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Sometimes you’re just not ready to understand an emotion. Just sitting with it is enough.

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12/21/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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Celebrate your victories, even the small ones

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12/21/2020

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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@CXGonzalez_ this is a good and beneficial thread, very much enjoyed

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12/19/2020

christian@cxgonzalez• over 4 years ago

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@AskYatharth thanks!

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