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I know for me, it was: “Only if I push back, can the dissonance I have feel like it has enough space.” 🧘♂️ 😤 Breathe 🌬🌫 https://t.co/7eYWF46YWY
To people who've been feeling wary or averse to the surge in tweets excited about unlearning self-coercion: Your concerns matter. I would not ask you to try relating to yourself in a way that seems confused or dangerous to you. Honoring your own distrust is paramount.
I don’t need a reason to acknowledge my feeling or dissonance as valid. https://t.co/zBd3foQ15x
There’s a certain instinctive self-trust I’ve been building of “oh, if my system feels X, well, there must be something to that.” I don't need to /wait/ till I have a reason to acknowledge the reality of my feeling, or respect its coherence. https://t.co/a02Zf1h9VK
I don’t need to be on guard, defending and decrying against X, because I feel if I don’t have a reason against X, I should do it. No, you do not need to know a reason yet for you to respect your feeling and close down / mistrust.
When you respect yourself and your dissonance, something special happens. You trust yourself to not get psy-oped. You become looser and happier. You can listen to the other person, without getting psy-oped, without making them wrong. https://t.co/K802eM4R5i
Isn’t getting coerced by non-coercion Twitter the lamest thing ever? That’s what happend to me with Enlightenment. https://t.co/OCUvm4CPeE
It’s what happens to a lot of people who don’t know how to say NO. Just because X seems like a good thing to do doesn’t mean I KNOW THAT yet. And I want to. https://t.co/bLTV82v972
This is pretty leading edge, but if your system feels dissonance, it feels some danger—that’s it, period, no arguing, you cannot possibly argue and overturn it. https://t.co/u7bHHG2Ke3
It’s a yes/and situation, don’t make it a no/but. Your final conclusion to go ahead and do something anyway never ever contradicts the original feeling of danger. It just enhanced it and made it part of a holistic, consilient whole.
Related: https://t.co/6jp3bK32zU
@jackinlondon @AskYatharth @ChanaMessinger The non-self-coercion discourse is now moving really rapidly though and not fully aware of: 1. the relationship between self-coercion & society (tho the critrats get this) 2. the need to grok a way of organizing other than coercion (tho some emphasize this, eg @mattgoldenberg)