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Some psy-ops I am extremely angry about: NO, being myself WON’T automatically get me what I want. My skills and attitude have made me fun to be around, and it gets me things I want. I don’t have to stick to some default version of me if that’s not what I want.
NO, my life is NOT going ok by default. It takes crazy discipline and knowing to live the crazy mfer life, but it doesn’t happen by default, and Boom, dissonance fucking acknowledged. https://t.co/58vyqE5hxn
The Emotional TRUTH of the situation. The KNOWING of my dissonance. The ALREADY EXISTING nature of my feelings. The bringing to light the POSITION I am already in, conscious or not. The disgusting FELT EXPERIENCE of the world even if it doesn’t feel right. All these make me.
NO, sharing the thing that came into my mind, even if it’s authentic and well-meaning, ISN’T always the right move, because it might not move the social container in the way I want to. I am always in a relational space, and that is worth considering.
Hold the container, don’t become fluid on others without consent, consent doesn’t always have to be verbal or serious, be in the relational space, you’re always in a relational space https://t.co/3UfZBAtfG2
@mechanicalmonk1 @ChanaMessinger @artfulminimal @sarelbic It’s ok to need caretaking. But making it opt-in, recognising subtext, and gracefully navigating yeses and nos are a huge skill upgrade that expand your ability to out negative emotions and still get really positive interactions out of it I’d call it a cheat code for life
When you unflinchingly and relentlessly respect your own self and emotions, others don’t have to do the work of making them feel ok for you. https://t.co/CIilv6tF9k
@liminal_warmth As smn who was that guy once, my life changed when someone explained to me, in kind and patient terms, that when I got overly attached, the problem was they as the other person weren’t free to feel whatever they wanted to anymore They had to feel a certain way for me to be ok
There is NEVER ever anything wrong with being myself, and also I don’t HAVE to be my default self, or say everything, I get to choose If I choose to not say or phrase differently, I chose that. That’s enough. There is no loss in being authentic, because I knew what I wanted
I get mad anytime anyone’s system ever feels danger and they don’t acknowledge it and treat it as real, because that feeling fucking happened, and it knows something, and you must treat it with the sheer and utmost respect because you are a living mfer and your system deserves it https://t.co/oBV86maRaY
In response to your questions of what “being yourself” even means, the most unfucked way of expressing it I have atm is: 1. Relentlessly respecting your own preferences https://t.co/LP0HH4cNn6
2. Knowing what you want to have happen, such that any action you take feels like its yours and emanating from your divine desire of what you want to have happen. https://t.co/dsK4bNknX2
There is NEVER ever anything wrong with being myself, and also I don’t HAVE to be my default self, or say everything, I get to choose If I choose to not say or phrase differently, I chose that. That’s enough. There is no loss in being authentic, because I knew what I wanted
Life is to be lived as 1-player game. Never forget. https://t.co/F1c3OQFe5u
Want to rant unfiltered? Is that valuable? Can be. Be intentional about it! Here’s my recommendation: https://t.co/mLpGW0ddFj
I don't know if I can or WANT TO skip the dramas and overreacting-to-things that feel big to me. https://t.co/Boub3PBFkz
Because they are big to me. https://t.co/xO1uaW1oTx
