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⚠️ Common Trap with IFS, parts work, etc. It’s sooo easy to get into the mode of “I’m going to let my inner kids play.” “My inner child wants this!” Noo! Go let *yourself* play! You want this! Fuck what the child wants. What do you want? You are the child.
There are no parts, no inner children—just vast cavernous ecologies of emergent processes 🌳🍃☘️🦋 Use parts and IFS if it helps you. It can help talk about this stuff. Acknowledging shocking and unendorsed desires is WEIRD.
You are allowed to talk as much shit about your “other parts” as you want. As long as you’re having fun. And when it stops being fun, you better bet I will gently prod you, whisper “(pssst, remember none of this is real),” and bring you back.
I think the reason it’s so tempting to be a victims to “parts” inside us is it gives us an excuse. We need an excuse. We desperately need to explain to society, to our parents, boss, the parent living inside our head—to any figures of authority asking—why we fucked up.
We cannot publicly, consciously admit those desires, and so they go unendorsed. Talking about the “part of us that wants to drink,” then, becomes the only outlet for acknowledging the reality of those desires. https://t.co/czQgeIIfaM
@meekaale Our mind cannot grasp the vagary of scattered mental processes operating past on past trauma so much so that we need to call them “parts” and ask them questions and ask “what they are trying to do.” A useful interface, to be sure. But a fake one nevertheless.
But it’s literally all you. All me. *I* want these things. *I* feel the fear. If my nervous system alarms go off to a stimulus, even if it’s a false alarm, it was still my system. It communicated some truth. https://t.co/M86lzqTjyW
In a trivial sense, every proposition is true, really, once you reframe proposition X to: ”my background factors led me at this moment to feel X” ”Ah yes, you’re right, your background factors would lead you to believe that.” There’s something there https://t.co/yFaxGm6eRb
It’s inane the lengths we go to disown our behaviour because we cannot or do not want to endorse it Yeah, shifting our desires / aligning ourselves takes work. Who came up with this idea that we can choose our desires anyway? https://t.co/vqKrLBh2d3
Here’s @magicianbrain trying to parody me and coming up with an unironically good take. https://t.co/9rjD4E10JZ
You are your parts as much as any dry notion of self. Love them, *be* them; they’re who you are. https://t.co/nGcwarclRG
My official position: https://t.co/O9Nhs94aZR
@AskYatharth I know there's a icon now to see QTs, but I still feel like I want to comment here being like "I wrote a thread building on yours" https://t.co/qUUvNpbPsG
Very possible to take unblending too far & reify the parts. "Part", as @AskYatharth gets to lower down, is only useful as shorthand for acknowledging internal conflict: "Part of me wants X" is true of any want, but unless other parts *disagree*, we usually just say "I want X". https://t.co/jvXM9cqDhL