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Re: āX is not a replacement for therapyā. I wonāt argue that thereās any one thing thatās a replacement for therapy, but I will say itās *possible* to 1. be a person who āneeds therapyā 2. become a person who gets DMs saying āthis conversation helped me more than my therapistā
āGo to therapyā has become a sort of shorthand - and Iāve used it myself too as a sort of placeholder (typically like, āgo to therapy if you need toā). But even therapy itself is no guarantee of anything. Some people go to therapy to find elaborate ways to justify their bullshit
Iām sure there are lots of great therapists out there who are doing their best to help people, I see you, appreciate you, etc etc. And- simultaneously- Iāve sensed that thereās been this strange... valorization? glorification? of therapy happening. It feels v artificial to me
QC had a great thread a while ago that suggested (this is my interpretation), if youāve gone to therapy, and you subsequently become this judgey person whoās dismissive of other peopleās attempts to become better people, maybe your therapist wasnāt very good? What are you doing
Itās the same with drugs, with travel, with reading good literature, with any sort of experience thatās supposed to help you become better in some way. If you come out of it still being needlessly mean to people, (sometimes even more so!), what was the point?
ultimately, I guess what Iām trying to say is: https://t.co/rjIw2kLPuL
If you have A Way that works for you: yoga, keto, box-breathing (changed my life!), introspective journaling, martial arts, jogging, lifting, whatever - truly, thatās fantastic. Just... maybe consider being less judgy & more inviting in how you share that information with others
this thread was about encouraging people to read more literature; same idea. I want people to be more awesome in every way too. Which includes doing therapy if itās right for them! Just saying that shaming & condescension is not effective persuasion for whatever youāre selling https://t.co/DMs79bgIeR
messed up the threading here, oof Iām getting sloppy š https://t.co/YDRrh4u5E7
nice clarification https://t.co/YhJZc2bo46
"therapy" is doing a tricksy ambiguity 1. therapy = "go see someone registered as a therapist" (may not help, or retraumatize) 2. therapy = "untangling your stuff, particularly via therapeutic reconsolidation process" by defn #2, @visakanv's DMs may actually just *be* therapy https://t.co/KukvWHQ4RJ