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Insecurity. Scared little boys whose sense of meaning and self-respect is obsessively tied up with their “ability” to control the behavior of women (using threats, violence). Possessiveness is a form of cowardice https://t.co/0d1C7ZIf3S
If your girlfriend wants to leave you, let her. If you’re really a man worth being with, then it’s her loss, not yours. Begging, pleading and/or intimidating her into staying is cowardice, especially if you raise your voice or fist. It reveals your fundamental neediness
Often these dudes don’t even actually care about their girlfriends at all - see how quick they are to insult and demean them. Often they’re worried about what other guys will think of them. Which is again another form of cowardice
galaxy-brain take: the normalisation of coercion (often) begins at home, and is further entrenched in school https://t.co/HPQUsT4kuR https://t.co/5Yu8Rm8nrR
So: the most important thing about the most important thing in life is attention, and in schools, IMO, we often screw up how we teach it. If you use threats and coercion to force kids to “pay” attention... ...you set people up for dysfunctional relationships their whole life https://t.co/DILk1zn2pN
galaxy-brain take: the normalisation of coercion (often) begins at home, and is further entrenched in school https://t.co/HPQUsT4kuR https://t.co/5Yu8Rm8nrR
So: the most important thing about the most important thing in life is attention, and in schools, IMO, we often screw up how we teach it. If you use threats and coercion to force kids to “pay” attention... ...you set people up for dysfunctional relationships their whole life https://t.co/DILk1zn2pN