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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 6 years ago

*taps mic* people wanna be fuckable more than they wanna fuck

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2/13/2019

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 6 years ago

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Exhibit A: https://t.co/qrsF76Baqs

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2/13/2019

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 6 years ago

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Exhibit B: anybody who is nitpicking this when they could be fucking instead This is not an attack,,, I too choose twitter over sex

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2/13/2019

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 6 years ago

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https://t.co/YCqCGBidbu

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 7 years ago

One of my “it’s counter-intuitive but explains a lot” ideas is that not many people *actually* care very much about having lots of sex. A much stronger drive IMO is the drive for connection, status, belonging. You don’t want the sex nearly as much as what you think the sex means

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5/10/2019

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 6 years ago

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https://t.co/2rtRBNThpP

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10/30/2019

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 6 years ago

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fucking is labor, fuckability is capital

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10/30/2019

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 5 years ago

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"... we spend an inordinate amount of time and energy thinking about sex, longing for it, imagining it, singing, talking and writing about it, while actually doing it so very rarely (compared to bonobos)" https://t.co/71vSsontGb

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3/11/2020

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 5 years ago

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it’s not just men https://t.co/BMPMvojHek https://t.co/lrxaaCzCHq

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7/19/2020

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 5 years ago

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think porn is a fun career because you get to fuck all day? well, https://t.co/KjShUdSrft

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12/9/2020

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 5 years ago

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https://t.co/BuIDq2phkE

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12/9/2020

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 5 years ago

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https://t.co/DEJ2Q1I6Oj

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1/18/2021

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 4 years ago

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https://t.co/GOT9rJn3ud

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5/3/2021

monk@mechanical_monk• over 4 years ago

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@visakanv what is this madness 👀

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5/3/2021

tess@xsphi• over 4 years ago

Replying to @mechanical_monk

@mechanical_monk @visakanv - I believe Visa's assertion to be sometimes but not universally applicable - Wanting to fuck is high status. Wanting to be fuckable is low status. I do not know why

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5/3/2021

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 4 years ago

Replying to @xsphi

@xsphi @mechanical_monk I would say it’s not universally applicable but it’s the default outcome of a sufficiently socialized consciousness, which is most people

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5/3/2021

tess@xsphi• over 4 years ago

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@visakanv @mechanical_monk From my limited vantage point, my guess would have been it's mostly true for people who haven't gotten sufficient validation. People who believe themselves to not be fuckable or at least need a reminder (if the case, I guess this answers my question about why status difference)

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5/3/2021

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 4 years ago

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https://t.co/9czxfbo6V3

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5/8/2021

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 4 years ago

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https://t.co/k9IDfSxFSx

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5/9/2021

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 4 years ago

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15. https://t.co/HCVTpK5q3x

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5/27/2021

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 4 years ago

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16. (h/t @lauralondon_ ) https://t.co/J5f72uSsxT

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7/2/2021

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 4 years ago

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17. (h/t @DRMacIver) https://t.co/9dflo35pNK

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12/28/2021

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 4 years ago

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18. https://t.co/qudqtTcqeu

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1/2/2022

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 4 years ago

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19. people wanna be sociable more than they wanna socialize https://t.co/VxC2AQFgYJ

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1/17/2022

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 3 years ago

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20. 🤔 https://t.co/qOJGYF6iKL

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10/30/2022

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 3 years ago

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21. 👆🏾shot 👇🏾chaser https://t.co/xZ20MC47zr

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10/30/2022

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 3 years ago

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(no shaming intended here, if anything the intended vibe is admiration at the fractal beauty of it all)

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10/30/2022

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 3 years ago

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22. https://t.co/Vty4KUToiZ

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11/7/2022

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 3 years ago

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23. https://t.co/IHkQlHuIEJ

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1/2/2023

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 2 years ago

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24. https://t.co/9LuFGetslo

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4/15/2023

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 2 years ago

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25. https://t.co/QJPG4ukSJW

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5/29/2023

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 2 years ago

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26. https://t.co/oIV2g3bFfS

yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

*taps sign* people wanna be textable more than they wanna text https://t.co/DNqvGCZxg4

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7/6/2023

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 2 years ago

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27. https://t.co/tLXPk3e0WW

tess@xsphi• about 2 years ago

which is more hot?

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9/1/2023

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• almost 2 years ago

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28. https://t.co/K7CiwBoSdv

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11/13/2023

Malcolm Ocean 🏴‍☠️@Malcolm_Ocean• over 6 years ago

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@visakanv Oh man, I've been thinking about this a lot lately. "More" probably depends on the person, but I think it generalizes that these are surprisingly different desires, compared to how similar they look. (And "more" might be true in >50%, even >90% of cases)

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2/14/2019

Jakeup@yashkaf• almost 6 years ago

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@visakanv I think I internalized a belief that I'm not particularly sexy and never will be, so I actually prefer people who are just very horny to those who cooly inform me that I'm hot. But this certainly seems true of many people, both women and men.

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10/31/2019

Jakeup@yashkaf• almost 6 years ago

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@visakanv "Man naturally desires not only to be loved, but to be lovely." - Adam Smith, The Theory of Moral Sentiments

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11/1/2019

Elodes@ElodesNL• almost 5 years ago

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@visakanv still one of your best tweets visa ❤

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11/11/2020

hjort@rikardhjort• over 2 years ago

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@visakanv https://t.co/69JyylCp7U

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7/3/2023