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A series of boring and tedious exchanges on twitter recently clarified for me that some people are extremely invested in their shitty reply game. I think the only really good thing you can do for them is to ignore them, because even trying to talk to them about it makes it worse
The āproblemā is that these people would rather be right than make friends. The two arenāt mutually exclusive, but their priority is being right. so almost nobody wants to be friends with them, except other adversarial nitpickers like themselves, whose love language is āfuck youā
You donāt need to be antagonistic to be unpleasant. There are many specialisations you can take in your quest to be insufferable. But what they all have in common, I think, is a lack of consideration for the other person. An inconsiderate friend can do more damage than a nemesis
Which leads me to a fun thought: do considerate antagonists exist? š I think they do! I think thatās what addictive abusive relationships are like. Haters are fans too, and have a passionate intensity that lovers struggle to match https://t.co/Kssw2DwLih
consideration = attention + intention you can turn up the voltage on this to seemingly superhuman levels, but really the truth is that most people give up their attention and intention - their most precious assets imho - too easily https://t.co/FjGcaoeKp6
Possibly the most important thing in a friendship- including one with yourself, or your spouse, or your child - is attention. Deep, focused, undivided, non-judgemental attention. To really see + hear the other person, in a world where people constantly feel unseen & unheard https://t.co/ttJw3cljfN
