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it's still an adult-child relationship it's still a relationship between relatives people do change, but not ~thaaaat~ much the distinction is best explained by the removal of the unique set of expectations and assumptions about the parent-child relationship
something that kids seldom realize about their parents until they get older and/or have kids of their own: lots of parents worry *more than they'd like to*. many would prefer not to worry and fuss, but feel compelled to. sometimes (often? always?) it's via external forces
lots of asian and brown kids experience that pressure in the form of "what will society think?" and grandparents & elders, if they aren't trapped in arrested development, perform the important role of release valve, broadening and expanding the context it really takes a village https://t.co/zRn8duer3n
lots of parents are under a lot of stress. being responsible for a whole damn human life (or several!) is a pretty intense gig. there's a lot to be afraid of, as a parent, and fear-mongering always sells. I've seen well-meaning parents literally abuse their kids out of fear https://t.co/XmwkjLOHng
if you wanna get next-level on this stuff, you could get around to thinking about how trauma spreads and percolates through entire systems – things like war, famine, etc can ruin people's relationships with their family https://t.co/8Pwp00zyLV
A friend once told me why he hates Winston Churchill Friend has a shit relationship with his distant dad Dad was raised by depressed, psychotic grandma Grandma lost all her older children in Bengal famine of 1943 Churchill responsible for famine So fuck Winston Churchill https://t.co/g9Ow2iLFO5
