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The funny thing to me is that people still try to go it alone. There is more intelligence outside your head than inside your head, this has always been obvious to me as a library nerd. And having smart friends accelerates your intelligence development/acquisition
This is what that looks like in practice. Itâs one of the benefits of celebrity (micro-celebrity, ideally) if youâre actually sensitive to the best elements of your graph, and hopefully escape being consumed by a mindless torrent of zombie fanboys https://t.co/1Kn9Rra0CG
This is a great eg of how, once youâre moderately smart and you think out loud publicly, people who care about you will make you smarter by sending you highly personalised content that fills in all the gaps youâre interested in closing. Itâs like an on-demand real-time education https://t.co/0bMXUPGa0V
Just as a motherâs impulse is often to be close to her baby, teenagers often have the impulse to socialise rather than sit through classes. Iâve been coming around to the idea that there is a deep wisdom in this. Socialising is IMO the most important skill for social animals
By âsimultaneously undersocialized and oversocializedâ I mean too much inheritance and not enough experimentation. Too much doing as youâre told and not enough figuring out what you want. Navigating with archaic graph models instead of making your own https://t.co/cuijhkqtoG
43. Killiney with @jurvistan & Niklaus: being a creative, self-directed person in Singapore, being simultaneously undersocialized and oversocialized, schooling vs education, developing taste, making friends, disagreement judo, oral histories, growing up online, slingshot theory https://t.co/OMpXZOU32J
Friends makes you more creative https://t.co/2U4zb9QWFF
You can be friends with yourself https://t.co/p18mCTbFf3
Much of self-improvement, personal development, introspection, etc can quite simply be reframed as the art of socialising with yourself. Listen to yourself, pay close attention to yourself, donât interrupt yourself, be kind and supportive to yourself, be constructive in criticism
You can be friends with art https://t.co/esdvbsuAm6
And even if there are no human meatspace friends, there are always friends in the form of books, movies, games, music. Art has been made with love & passed on as a gift through the millennia by kindred strangers who wanted you to feel less alone https://t.co/63xK6PUR6W
Hereâs something that will make the world a better place 1.Scroll through your FB or IG or whatever 2. look for 3-5 people that you respect, admire and donât spend much time with 3. reach out to them (tell them about something that reminded you of them) and ask to catch up
In my exp, once you *identify* + *prioritise* the best people in your life, *not* doing so feels like injustice my exp is that doing this well means I grow & develop faster, better, and can help more kids (Ofc thereâs no point getting *paralysed* by this, the point is to act)
Iâm getting to the point now where my threads can pretty much go on indefinitely, and so I have to stop myself đ Iâll stop with this for now https://t.co/XP9EbiWtND
the more interesting qn to ask, compared to "how do you compete with smarter people", is "how do you win the love, trust, support & goodwill of smarter people, so that THEY are on YOUR side" it's interesting how rarely anybody seems to ask this. i think about this all the time
Or maybe I could show you an eg of the sort of thing that makes me reach out to friends đ https://t.co/2L0h1be8mW
Next level once you reach out and hang out: take notes on what you enjoyed! If you do this on twitter, people watching you make friends and be friendly online will want to make friends with you. You can meet billionaires and heads of state this way https://t.co/8XO9AQTVbK
But the point isnât to meet high status people or powerful people - the point is to be amongst friends https://t.co/P5aQjJ3hok
Somebody Feed Phil is possibly my favourite show on Netflix. Itâs so heartening and wholesome, this guy just going around the world & eating beautiful food with kind, warm-hearted, funny, lovable people. The food is a head fake; the whole point - the meaning of life - is friends. https://t.co/46LUxX9dnF
So this is an interesting point. I think introversion can be social too. Books are intensely social. Journaling is social. And on the flip side, you can be profoundly lonely and isolated in a crowded room. Itâs about connection, not physical proximity https://t.co/mBxQx0vW3C
âHow is journaling social? Youâre doing it by yourselfâ - an individual is an entire assemblage of dozens, maybe infinite subselves. Journaling is community organizing. Itâs political leadership within the self. Journaling is about building self-coherence https://t.co/YxElCjRfnF
The amount of latent wealth sitting around my social graph is staggering to me. Some of you should dare and marry each other, but you donât know it yet. Some of you should start companies together, but you donât know it yet. Social media is still not even 1% *truly social*
Your relationships with your many deviant and divergent selves is possibly most important set of relationships in your life. I once wrote myself to tears imagining my brain as a pack of earnest, eager and active wolf-puppies, medicated and thrown in jail https://t.co/7Ol5lf51vr