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some people are so invested in their network of toxic relationships that they protect themselves psychologically by projecting the assumption that non-toxic relationships must be somehow fake. they rationalize the abuse they inflict on each other with "at least we keep it real"
there’s a similar, more general version of this where some people are suspicious of any attempt to play, or have fun, or be joyful, because nobody could possibly want to “just have fun” without some ulterior motive (ie “she must be trying to build her brand”)
if you connect the dots and follow the implications: it seems like the only way to be authentic in this worldview is to be broke, miserable, grumpy, angry, hateful everybody else is “selling something”, “putting on a show” 🤔 (I don’t think the misery act is off-stage tho 🤔)
@visakanv I think this 👆 is an example of this 👇 phenomenon, although here with the boring lowercase barely-a-full-ideology "people suck" https://t.co/FUSXv9iit7
There's some kind of awful toxoplasmosis life cycle thing going on with trauma and ideology. Trauma begets ideologies to make sense of it, and those ideologies form communities in which everyone is actually actively reinforcing each other's trauma, I think in several ways. Oof.