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The better you get at socialising, the more apparent it becomes just how bad so many people are at socialising Most people who get better at socialising simply enjoy the fruits of their labor and move on with their lives But I am the dumbass nerd who keeps *thinking* about it
Getting better at socialising IMO is possibly the single best thing anybody can do. It’ll upgrade your social graph, open doors, make you a better husband, lover, son, brother, dad, friend, boss, coworker, pal, rival we are social creatures, and might as well get good at it
Much of self-improvement, personal development, introspection, etc can quite simply be reframed as the art of socialising with yourself. Listen to yourself, pay close attention to yourself, don’t interrupt yourself, be kind and supportive to yourself, be constructive in criticism
(There is IMO a “strange loop” between private and social life. Many people are dicks to themselves bc others were dicks to them in ways they did not even fully appreciate. They then go on to be dicks to others, and the cycle continues. We can actually refuse to participate)
Francis Bacon has some simple, timeless directives that every reply guy should consider internalizing https://t.co/CNyeiXKePV
Francis Bacon, Of Discourse - don’t be tedious - let other people talk - if someone is hogging, cut him off - ask questions that people can look good answering - don’t be a poser with smartass questions - don’t bitch about others - eloquence is overrated - It’s Not About You https://t.co/LvHozF4N3Y
George Washington thought about this a lot too! If you aren’t interested in hearing it from me, hear him out https://t.co/AW6OuI4IWI
George Washington: 1. Respect others 13. If your friend has lice, remove it privately 38. When visiting the sick, don’t play physician 41. “Undertake not to teach your equal in the art himself professes” 46. Take all admonition thankfully 49. Use no reproachful language https://t.co/fjUfhcMHqk
