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I don’t know if I ever specifically set out to learn this, but Ive gotten pretty good at it over the years: I think giving people specific and sincere compliments is a pretty great skill to develop. It’s a the intersection of making people feel good + developing your taste
The simplest way to do this without even getting specific is saying something like “this is particularly good!” - whether your friend is posting hot takes or makeup selfies, some will be better than others. Identifying that and pointing it out is an act of service IMO
In recent times I have complimented people on - rad colourful leggings - cool red leather jacket - cool nose ring - evil looking locket that made her look like a powerful witch (fantasy writer) Importantly these are all things I sincerely thought were cool
Getting specific is where the magic is though. Eg if you’re responding to a creative, they’ll appreciate it if you mention specific bits at that you thought were particularly interesting or good. It helps them level up! It’s a great little gift https://t.co/g2RdWGFUGZ
Noob-minus: this is the worst thing I have ever read Noob-plus: this is the best thing I have ever read Friends: you’re on to something here! I really liked the part where you talked about X, it made me think about Y. I was kinda hoping for more about Z, but that’s just my POV
as a married dude with lots of female friends, I sometimes find myself in a position of wanting to leave supportive comments without coming across as lecherous phrases I use, feel free to take 'em: - feeling this!! - killer vibes - A+ look - respect - fresh AF - too powerful
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