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"Does it spark joy?""Fix the things that announce themselves as in need of repair...Your room, put it in order!""not everyone will have a showcase of a home, but whatever your habitat, you deserve one that brings you happiness, not stress."https://t.co/hHXYs9R3eK
"Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live."The courage to tell other people to fuck off with their mess. Oh wait, then I won't be able to live here.
"he can never find enough time to write novels, and that's why he can't complete work and enter it for writing awards. But is that the real reason? No! It's actually that he wants to leave the possibility of "I can do it if I try" open, by not committing to anything."
What if he can't actually find the time because said friend IS working a shit job to pay for his food, housing, and childcare? You're just blowing smoke up his ass with feel good placation about "you just don't want it bad enough?", and he sees thru you?https://t.co/EpS5IA9oTI
Telling someone homeless to 'just clean their room'.Telling someone stuck in the Precariat trap to 'just find time'.Telling someone with rumination from depression to 'just don't think about it'.telling someone you don't understand a bunch of advice that solves nothing.
The courage to be disliked?More like the power, leverage, and risk tolerance to be disliked.All of these self help trends I'm seeing lately misunderstand selection bias. They measure and exclaim what makes someone successful, not seeing the things that make others fail.
I try not to give advice. I Try to tell about my circumstances and what I experimented with that seemed to work *for me*. With a heavy emphasis that a lot of what I did was situational, how other people had different results, and how the larger theory is self experimentation.
Is your room messy? Why is it messy? Do you not care? Do you not have a trash bin? Do you not have habits of throwing stuff away? Can you not easily decide what is trash and what isn't? Is your landlord an asshole who makes it difficult to remove the trash efficiently?
Can you produce less trash? Can you compact your trash? Can you build up routines that involves checking/emptying the trash? Is the person buying trash bags pennywise/poundfoolish when it comes to saving money that they get cheap ones that rip & you get accosted for wasting bags?
Can you not lift the bags out of bin? Can you get lighter bags? Why do we even use trashbags? How do other cultures handle trash? Could you recycle instead? Could you maintain a separate trash from the rest of the household to manage yourself? Maybe you need more accessible bins?
Do you have power to change trash handling behavior of others? Do you have authority to change arrangement of how trash is managed? Why is there so much trash? Maybe the problem isn't trash, but that someone keeps buying food that goes bad and its actually that system is trash?
"The filter may improve the peacefulness of our surroundings, but it does little to bend the trajectory of our lives. It rarely causes us to evaluate the motivations within that caused the clutter to build in the first place."https://t.co/4ttVSZRgmu
I've been a minimalist since I was 14 - moving stuff back & forth between my mom and dads every weekend. After college I optimized my life to the point where I was living on $80/mo for food, eating better than I am now, and produced nearly no garbage that couldn't be compostable.
I lived with a hoarder for much of my youth. Due to what I now suspect to be Multiple Sclerosis combined with medication. I hated living in piles of unwanted items. *Nothing* sparks joy when everything is broken & half your room is bags of laundry your mom can't afford to wash.
before you clean your room, figure out why it is dirty. Figure out the stocks & flows of your life rhythms and route out dysfunction. Detail inputs to the system, stuff that builds up, and energies your environment is sapping from you. Muda, Muri, Mura. https://t.co/WAHgOxSqqn
“You can talk all you like about women’s liberation, but houses are still designed so women have to spend half their time on their knees or hanging their head in a hole,” https://t.co/5RKGUBJlex
Have you considered creating a black soldier fly bio reactor and pairing it with a composting toilet. Turn all your waste into delicious grubs for fish and chickens?https://t.co/8DojoTscLz
Y: I want to do A, to do A I must do B, I can't figure out how to do B, have any ideas?P: Why are you afraid to do A*? You can't do B* because you don't want to do B*.Y: A*? I don't want todo A*, I don't want to do A*?! Wtf?P: You are just projecting your anxiety over doing B*
Something that I bristle against in 'the courage to be disliked' stems from a loss of nuance. So many miss the 'some' bit. I find myself talking with people who assume I'm saying "you don't understand how I feel" and try to psychoanalyze me and my fear.https://t.co/6rb91tCyll
Some people will even brag about their misfortune. If you try to help them they’ll refuse the helping hand by angrily saying “you don’t understand how I feel”. Most people learn to treat these people carefully, specially. They become special. Weakness can be powerful
People come offering me advice for my problems. But often it seems they don't really want to give advice. Instead of listening, it is as if they are assuming they know what my problem is. It feels like status games - twist it into an opportunity to point out all my failures.
The thing is, i'm not saying "you do not know how I feel". I'm saying "your advice doesn't work because you haven't taken the time to consider *MY* constraints". Pressing further. Its not really a game. They're genuinely clueless about constraints they haven't experienced.
This experience is so common that I've basically become jaded over asking for help or listen to others. When I am given advice, I do listen and consider it. But often I find better luck "reversing it" ala: https://t.co/UbrABFOPPC
The worst are when someone presses for information on constraints, and then just dismisses them. "When I was your age, I was on foodstamps and they didn't require X. You're wrong! You just haven't tried hard enough because you're afraid!!!!1111"Starts a reality distortion.
I bring up how when *THEY* were on foodstamps, vermont wasn't enforcing the ABAWDs SNAP requirement, and how since then 3SquaresVT has been fined tons of money and started doing it now. Reality distortion in their head makes them think I'm lying.
It really doesn't matter if I cite sources or evidence, or tell them actual freaking laws on the books [https://t.co/V7U4c7fxa8] that talk about all of this. They can't (don't want to?) believe the safteynets don't work. They CAN'T believe me because they haven't lived it.
Telling someone who cant pass the SNAP ABAWD requirements to "Just get on foodstamps"https://t.co/9oh9gzv4S1
Telling someone homeless to 'just clean their room'.Telling someone stuck in the Precariat trap to 'just find time'.Telling someone with rumination from depression to 'just don't think about it'.telling someone you don't understand a bunch of advice that solves nothing.
This foodstamp thing comes up a lot. Like... basically all of my family and most of my contacts in Vermont who haven't been on foodstamps. I wish their fantasies of how solving these problems were true, because then I'd be on foodstamps.
I feel like a parasite. My girlfriend has taken me in and is helping me out, and we've managed to find workable solutions. I take solace in paying her back by doing all this research and helping her figure out her medical problems.I wonder how many people aren't as lucky.
Don't have enough time to follow your dreams? If you wanted it bad enough you'd give your kids up for adoption!https://t.co/FJgvVZpOHz
What if he can't actually find the time because said friend IS working a shit job to pay for his food, housing, and childcare? You're just blowing smoke up his ass with feel good placation about "you just don't want it bad enough?", and he sees thru you?https://t.co/EpS5IA9oTI
Have you tried optimizing a chaotic supply chain that runs on economic gain and pays little heed toward the economic externalities around risk because it isn't profitable in the short term?https://t.co/KCdLoEvrjX
Kitchen Nightmares: Supply Chain Edition"This milk is fokken raw!"https://t.co/TurI4vvFHO
"I'm really happy that we took the risk and ramped up our inventory, despite the fact that in food manufacturing it's well known that everyone is doing Just-In-Time [...]Most [...] only have 3 days on hand at any given moment."https://t.co/BRmpDZpwdZ 🥲https://t.co/fdur6WaEhw
Pennywise, pound foolish? Demented clown."The results support the hypothesis that high risk aversion in old age is partly an early sign of the pathology of Alzheimer disease." https://t.co/ONoG2Wck0phttps://t.co/r8M6fJC0lz
"At the heart of these concerns is the modern operating practice of Just In Time capitalism. Similar to lean production methods, the intention of Just In Time is to optimize productivity, cash flow management, and ultimately, profitability"https://t.co/KrXq5Td7BN
Loss aversion or distorted?"suggest that AD patients making high-risk choices is associated with attenuated sensitivity to the emotional frames that highlight rewards or punishments, possibly reflecting altered evaluations of prospective gains and losses" https://t.co/ONoG2Wck0p
I am a demented clown.https://t.co/zuT1AGIHFR
@MMMalign Learning about clowns now."Pochinko taught clowning as a sort of "reverse therapy", in which instead of ridding oneself of anxieties, the clown performer leans into their own insecurities and foibles in order to package them as comedy." https://t.co/xLjkCHlw3G
I see clowns in my sleep, because I dream about supply chain networks.https://t.co/yxvi3uxqRe https://t.co/Pxk2aqc9KC
Of course a disease that impairs serotonin synthesis pathways via disrupted gut, and has high levels of comorbid pellagra is going to have problems with risk processing.https://t.co/HBb9TNuAW0
Microbes may impact risk aversion."as this study is performed on healthy volunteers which possibly react, to the intervention, in a different way than patients, the conclusions from this study cannot be generalized and require future investigations." https://t.co/6b2R0OwHIJ
Of course these studies are using a damn survey."The LEIDS-R is a self-report questionnaire that tests cognitive reactivity to sad mood, which is an index of cognitive vulnerability to depression. It consists of 34 items describing different situations." https://t.co/nwZoMI7Kz3
"The dietician helped participants make adjustments to their diets, [...] more nutrient-rich foods such as produce, fish and legumes. While just 8 percent of the control group achieved remission, almost a third of the dietary intervention group did" https://t.co/8mMbQbmeEo
"In summary, it is preferable to obtain antioxidants from food rather than from supplements. [...] Further studies into the effects of vitamin and mineral supplementation on outcomes related to COVID-19 [...] are warranted." https://t.co/BlU9G5ZDqt
I might have been able to get foodstamps lol. https://t.co/2eoR6y8eke