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When a couple has an argument, they may think it’s about money or power or sex, or how to raise the kids, or whatever. What they’re really saying to each other, though, without realizing it, is this:“You are not enough people!”- Kurt Vonnegut https://t.co/cA494fc1Kv
I often hear acquaintances or co-workers express frustration with their SOs, but then continue to spend 99% of their time together. A little space goes a long way! It's important to have friends even if, or perhaps especially if, you're in a relationship
People seem to do things they don't like (e.g. going to a concert of a band they don't care for) for their SOs. They think they are being sweet. Let your SO go with someone who will truly enjoy it, while you spend your time doing what *you* enjoy. Then you can return recharged!
Granted, this is easier said than done. We no longer have extended family around us, and maintaining friendships in the 21st century is hard workhttps://t.co/2754nFhM2T
Dunbar's most famous number is 150, but he also claimed that, "Our studies suggest that we devote about 40 per cent of our available social time (and the same proportion of our emotional capital) to an inner core of about five shoulders-to-cry-on."https://t.co/7zUMan5rkK
Coining a neologism like 'Dunbar's number' or 'premium mediocre' is ultimate goalshttps://t.co/MXLdkeRyWr
And yes, if you're wondering, I loved "Frindle" as a kid. I read it all in one sitting, while still at the bookstore.https://t.co/ZzZrMLQbFx