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Flirting is a conversational OODA loop Teaching a single formula then can be counter-productive, because good flirting is about switching formulas on the fly, appropriately and adeptly so much so that in practice it’s “the formula of no formula”
If I’m right about this, flirting should make you a better fighter pilot, and fighter pilots should make uncommonly good flirts https://t.co/fns9L00SMj
“The answers themselves are not what you’re looking for. It’s the meta-data.” - Steve Jobs, generally acknowledged to be one of the charming, charismatic people around (when he wanted to be) https://t.co/YHFB7rJ7ym
My friend @priya_ebooks & I were giving some random guy in our mentions some free impromptu coaching on how to be a better communicator Us: - be sensitive! - pay attention! - consider how she’s feeling, her POV - think about what she wants! Him: “nvm,, I’m not expressive guy”
@visakanv Flirting is anti-inductive, like markets: there cannot be a simple formula, because any simple formula can be copied by anyone regardless of whether they'd be a good person to date. Whatever flirting becomes, it must always in particular be an honest signal of quality.
@visakanv OODA loop flirting is an honest signal that you know how to actually pay attention. Obviously highly desirable (and depressingly rare) quality, makes literally everything better: sex, resolving relationship conflicts, transcending the ego...