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My wife pointed out to me recently that there are so few spaces for men to gather and talk about their feelings. We could create them at any time if we wanted to. Women aren’t stopping us. But male-only spaces often quickly become overrun by dominance games https://t.co/Nxc0j5UkgT
So in practice what lots of guys do, instead of confronting each other about their bullshit (because other men can be cruel, violent and domineering - men know this very well) is try and leech emotional support from women in female spaces
By leech support I mean like asking female rape victims “what about men”. Instead of asking their male friends. Because they know their male friends will laugh them off, while women have been socialized to not say “fuck off m8” (& also fear male retribution, just as men do)
here's a fantastic example of men supporting men – the ManKind Project, featured in Follow This on Netflix https://t.co/Fg7QfYX8j3
how rare and precious this is, and how sorely lacking in the world. it's up to us men to provide this to each other https://t.co/7T1UDl2l6S
this is real connection, this is honesty & earnestness, vulnerability & openness. it is not weakness. the guy crying is visibly fit and strong, physically. but even if he weren't, this sort of radical honesty is IMO the foundation of love and strength women aren't stopping us https://t.co/FSFWvrCsoQ
if you think lesser of these men for reaching out to each other for support, for being surrogate fathers & brothers to each other, for helping each other safely discharge their anguish + speak openly about their fears ask yourself why that is, and where you learned to think that
evergreen quotes https://t.co/ihs0A7PyAc
come to me, my dudes. don't burden women with your issues https://t.co/adffmOgdLQ
But of course, and again, women and girls are not rehabilitation centres for dysfunctional dudes. Come to me, my dudes. You are safe with me. Lay down your borrowed weapons and take off your too-big armor, and let's talk about your fears and uncertainties. You can be so much more
Yes. Healing comes from the heart https://t.co/m8eQeRalXC
